How to Apply The Rules of Dating to Your Job

How to Apply The Rules of Dating to Your Job My favorite dating book of all time is called Why Men Love Bitches.   Girls, you need to get this book.   Guys, pretend you didnt read that first sentence.   I dont want you to know all of our secrets. The subtitle of this book is called From Doormat to Dreamgirl-A Womans Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship.   The word bitch is not a bad word in the eyes of author Sherry Argov.   Bitch stands for Babe In Total Control of Herself. Sherry argues that doing what you want to do, living your own life and avoiding traditionally female emotional drama is the best way to win a mans heart for the long haul. This book just so happens to be my dating Bible.   Yet since my boyfriend is working from the Chicago office for the first time in 6 months (he usually works in L.A. during the week) Ive been a little too excited.   My house is clean, his dry cleaning is done, the fridge is stocked, dinner is cooked, etc. Then yesterday he dropped a bomb on me: he said I was being too nice and that it was a bit much. WHAT?! The poster child for Why Men Love Bitches is being too nice?!   Ive never heard such a thing from anyone Ive ever dated.   In fact, quite the contrary.   Usually people tell me to BE NICE! Ive seen and heard variations of this story happening to people at work. The difference is that at work, you probably wont receive the direct feedback of someone telling you you are being too nice. Yesterdays events served as a great reminder not to be too nice.   Being too nice can be detrimental to your career and how your co-workers see you. In order to get promoted, you need to be seen as unshakable: focused, clear minded, fact based.   You need to command respect. Heres how you can apply the rules of dating to your job Be in total control of yourself.   Dont let your anger or emotions get the best of you. Dont say yes to everything. Dont immediately say sorry.   Only use that word when you need too. Dont feed into your bosss bad moods.   Instead give him or her space and stick to the facts when communicating. Dont say anything about having a talk. Dont start conversations with I feel. Instead, start with facts. Dont let them assume you will always be there. Take the time off that is given to you. Set boundaries and stick to them. Dont do everything for your co-workers. You will start to be seen as a gopher instead of a smart and talented employee. What other rules of dating do you think can be applied to your job? Do you think Sherry Argovs dating advice is too harsh? Why does every guy I know love Family Guy?